The idea of coaching feels really awkward

What I’m about to ask may feel really leftfield, but stick with it, there’s a reason why I’m asking which will become clear.

What emotions did you go through before your very first date?

I remember mine. I was what psychological professionals define as ‘bricking it’. What will they think of what I’m wearing? Will they like my conversation? Is where I’ve chosen to go to their liking? What if this person is not who they seem? Etcetera etcetera.

Now in my 10+ years of Executive Coaching, there have been times where I’ve noticed similar moments of awkwardness in the people exploring whether they would like Executive Coaching or Leadership Development with Ispire MC or not.

I don’t think it was to do with what I was wearing. But that feeling of complete uncertainty entering a conversation with someone is where the similarities to that first date can come from. And I completely get it.

It’s human nature to be apprehensive approaching something for either the first time, or to enter a similar experience with memories of a previously bad experience. These moments of interaction often test us in ways we consciously and unconsciously appreciate…and they mean something to us.

So how can these be overcome?

Well, here’s a few top tips that can help interactions with a new Coach feel less awkward, and build the confidence and trust between you both from the outset.

1. Listen to that nervous voice inside of you. Define what it’s telling you and why that might be the case. I’m not saying have a conversation with yourself in the mirror (although that might help). I’m saying give yourself the time to put words to the sensations you are feeling.
2. Define why you think you need Executive Coaching and/or Leadership Development. Your answers to questions like ‘What are the obstacles, challenges or problems you are facing that you feel an Executive Coach would help you overcome?’ and ‘How do I feel an Executive Coach can help me?’ will help you have a clear idea of where you’d like to go, and assess whether an Executive Coach or other form of helping professional would be the key to helping you thrive.
3. Check out the potential coach in advance. What does their social media look like? Is it just a marketing portal for what they do, or can you get a feel for their genuine character and approach to life? This may help you test your level of connection and comfort with the potential Executive Coach.

With these things in mind, you can come into that first exploratory discussion aware of yourself, and the reactions you have going on. The coach should be doing the same (well, I know the Ispire ones do because we see it as an important factor in being an effective Executive Coach), and rest safe in the knowledge you’ll either find a Coach you believe you can work with from that discussion, or understand something important to you as to why another one might work.

Graham